A relationship rooted in infidelity has less than a 1 in 100 chance of survival. When couples start off a relationship with worry, shame, guilt, etc. There’s usually little or no success from such a union.
Be True To Yourself
Are you honest enough to yourself that you could quit cheating entirely? This is a personal question you would have to admit to yourself. If telling the whole truth will put you on this path, are you willing to do it?
Be Sincere With Your Partner
After being honest with yourself, you have to come clean with your partner. Keeping it a secret from them is not going to help you stop cheating. If you could get away with this, what’s the possibility you won’t be tempted in the future to engage in it again.
It is a matured thing to own up to your infidelity. Ensure you let your partner know you made those choices and you are willing to make better choices to put your relationship back on track.
Are You still Committed To Your Relationship?
Your commitment level will determine if you will be able to fight or give up on your relationship with your spouse. If you stay commitment, you will be able to endure the length of time it will take to win back your partner’s trust.
It Should Be All About Your Partner
On your journey to turning a new leaf, you should avoid any contact with the person you cheated with. Avoid places you know can put you in a compromising position. Know and acknowledge your strengths and make a conscious effort to turn your focus on your spouse.
If you are being cheated on:
Be Sincere To Yourself
You have been hurt repeatedly with your partner’s unending cheating escapades and they ask for your forgiveness one more time. Question is: what assurance is there that they will not continue again after this? You may have to make a decision that you describe better.
You Are Not To Blame
You had nothing to do with their decision. You should not make it your fault that they cheated. You kept your part of the commitment; it was them that broke theirs. If the partner could not discuss the problem with you before going ahead to cheat, you should have no part to play in feeling guilty.
Determine Your Payoff
What exactly do you want out of this? Do you want to forgive them and move? You scared if you forgive, it would signify weakness on your part? These are some of the questions you need to answer.
Can You Really Forgive?
The level of trust you have for your partner will come to play in this situation. Forgiveness is letting go of the wrong they have done. This is a decision only you can make. If you forgive them this time and they do it again, will you be able to live with that outcome?
When Forgiveness Is Impossible
…simply let go of that spouse. You will be doing yourself more harm than good staying in such a relationship. If you won’t be able to move pass the cheating, it’s best to just let go and move on.