Infidelity is very sensitive topic and people who cheat on their partners very often are not aware of the consequences that their actions could bring.
In the past few years the demand for discovering cheating partners has significantly increased so private investigators have been tracking people around. Discovering the affair is the easiest part, learning how to overcome it is what really complicates things.
Stop The Communication
The first step towards the long and painful process of “survival” is coming to a mutual understanding that the affair must stop. The partner who was caught cheating must end all communication with the lover and remove any item that relates to them.
Rebuild The Trust
The second step is to try and rebuild the trust. The opinions over whether the affair should be discussed or not are divided, but the majority of experts believe that the only way to heal is if you play with open cards. The cheated partner has the right to know every detail they want from the affair as that might help them forgive.
Show Empathy Towards Spouse
The third thing refers to the behavior of the cheater. The cheater must be able to show empathy towards their spouse/partner and understand how they feel. They must be aware of the consequences of their irresponsible behavior and they need to be aware that they have hurt someone’s feelings. Such actions take time and even after a while they can still hurt as the first day.
Having patience is also a crucial aspect of the entire process. The cheater must give the person they have cheated on enough time to heal. It might take days, months or even years, but that is something they would both have to live with. Don’t try to expedite the process, as it might have a negative effect and end the relationship rather than recover it. People are different and they react differently. Some might accept the fact that they have been cheated and get over it in the blink of an eye while others might take it more personally and decide it is more than they can cope with.
Take The Responsibility
Number five is reserved for maybe one of the most important steps in surviving the affair – taking responsibility. Blaming each other for the affair is not going to be beneficial, for either of you! It takes two for tango, so you have to realize that both the cheater and the cheated have been direct or indirect cause of the affair and they need to get to the bottom of the problem in order to prevent similar situations in future.
Let Time Do Its Thing
And finally be aware that this will be a long process. Don’t expect to act like nothing happened and move on with your lives. It is best to be honest about your feelings and let time do its thing. If you suppress the feelings and decrease the importance of the affair, the end of your relationship would be closer than you have anticipated.